It’s not about how good you are, it’s about how good you want to be.
Well do you? What’s your purpose? What’s your fate? Do you believe you were destined to do something? Don’t you worry child, heaven has a plan for you.
A wise man (actually my mentor Irfan told me this for the first time) once said: “The reasonable man adapts himself to the world, whereas the unreasonable man adapts the world to himself. That means all progress we’ve witnessed so far in this world has been because of unreasonable people.” It’s a quote from George Bernard Shaw about life and who you’re going to be. Whether you’re going to follow the flock or lead the pack. As Hugh McLeod once said: “The price of being a sheep is boredom. The Price of being a Wolf is loneliness. Choose one of the other with great care.”
What are you unreasonable about?
Life isn’t what you think it is. It has nothing to do with where you are or how good you are, it has everything to do with how good you want to be and how far you want to go.
Doesn’t everyone want to be rich and have nothing to do every day?
You know just like those guys from Night at the Roxbury? When you’re young you think that’s what you want. To be rich with no responsibility. The problem is that doesn’t exist. And if it does (the rare exception to the rule) it doesn’t last long. You don’t get wealth without sacrifice. Doing “nothing” every day will get old fast.
People who have a lot aren’t lazy, they do more, try harder and see themselves further along tomorrow than today. They don’t get caught up in short term thinking, rarely do you find these people gossiping or having meaningless conversation. Everything is purposeful. Everything has a reason, it all aligns with your future goal.
You don’t have a goal? No wonder you’re settling. Why do you think settling for that job is going to make you happy in the future? Why not get greedy about your future? Why not try to create your dream future? That’s going to come with a sacrifice, but rather sacrifice early in your career than later right? RIGHT?
You’d have more time to start that business or study for your dream job if you just stopped watching TV and caring about celebrities.
We love to talk about celebrities lives and our friends on vacations lives, then we wonder why our own life isn’t perfect?
Guess what? You may need to cut down on your social media usage. Social Media usage inversely correlates with self-esteem. That means the more you’re online following everyone else’s life, you’re really missing out on enjoying your own.
Stop settling. Stop coming to conclusions that only YOU believe. Your stubbornness is your fatal flaw, you can’t see it through someone else’s eyes because to admit you’re wrong is a shot at your ego. You know you don’t have much of that left. But that’s not true at all! When we’re wrong, and openly wrong we’re showing vulnerability. When we do that publicly we actually gain confidence. Vulnerability builds trust fast, its one of the most underrated characteristics in leaders.
So want to grow your confidence in a positive way? Start by no longer settling for anything less then frickin’ amazing!
Set a high expectation and hold yourself accountable. If you haven’t read about the Galatea Effect you need to. Self expectations do wonders for our subconscious and can big the major influence on your future. Go find that dream job, go work for nothing, go live in poverty, go do what you never thought possible because I bet when you come out the other side you’re going to say, that wasn’t that hard! And you’ll move on to something bigger and more difficult next time. Every time we achieve something we never thought possible we gain an unforeseen confidence. If you want to keep gaining that confidence you must keep pushing yourself to learn new things, try new things and always keep an open mind.
We can only go as far as we can see ourselves going. That’s why it sucks sometimes because if you don’t think you deserve any more, you won’t get it. You need to change your opinion of yourself. You need to start treating yourself better. Lately, what have you done for your soul? No I don’t mean partying, I mean when’s the last time you truly did something that you’ll never forget and that forever will make you better?
We have some work to do.
An amazing book if you ever get the chance buy up all Paul Arden has written, you won’t be disappointed. It’s not how good you are, it’s how good you want to be is just one of his many great reads.