Something that took me a while to realize is that confidence is not a personality trait. At first it sounds crazy, right? I have struggled with confidence my whole life and didn’t have the courage to do a lot of things, ultimately holding myself back. I still struggle with it, but I keep waking up everyday with an open mind, knowing that the only person who’s told me I can’t do something all these years is me.
I started paying attention to the people around me and the amount of confidence they carry. What I realized was that not everything works out perfectly all the time. People still stumble on their words – or quite literally stumble – but in the long run, none of the smaller things actually matter.
Eventually, people started paying attention to me too. Now, I get asked advice. I talk to high school students who want to do what I do and to other people in the community who took my workshop. My network grew simply because I started believing in what I was doing, as did the people around me.